The other day, I was listening to ‘I SAID WHAT I SAID (ISWIS)’ podcast on Friendship, and Jola said something that struck me regarding the complexity in someone showing you love and you recognizing it. This isn’t confined to romantic relationships only.
She said “sometimes there’s a storyline/ flow you’ve told yourself that you’d like to retell regarding an event and when it doesn’t go that way, you feel robbed of that opportunity”, while being oblivious to the other, nicer things the person has done to ease that burden for you.
Here’s my Thought & Opinion:
I think many of us -myself included- are guilty of this. It has been on my mind so much because it’s so true. I believe that the desire to tell a particular storyline and flow often stems from “Comparison” rather than the love shown not speaking to us. This comparison can cloud our judgment and affect our ability to recognize genuine acts of love.
However, I think it ultimately comes down to communication and understanding. Sometimes, what you expect from someone might not align with their personality or nature, and that’s where understanding plays a crucial role. Communication is key—when such situations arise, it’s important to talk about the issue with an open mind rather than bottling up feelings or holding grudges. I believe a middle ground can always be found.
Comparison is indeed a thief of joy. Sometimes, the story you want to tell is driven by what you’ve seen others experience or by a desire to brag about something that might not even be real. This doesn’t mean you should lower your expectations, but I do think being realistic is more important.
Lastly, it’s essential to extend as much grace as you can. It might be challenging, but it’s doable and incredibly important.
In the end, I believe this goes both ways. How about you? Have you ever found yourself in a similar situation? What do you think of what Jola said